self-care isn't selfish

Self-Care Isn't Selfish:
It's Your Duty

Unapologetically Taking Care of Yourself While Taking Care of Business

Designed for women's leadership initiatives, ERGs, and high-potential programs

A person with short gray hair, glasses, and a sheer black blouse gestures with open hands while speaking, against a plain white background.

Let's Be Real

You've heard the term "self-care." You probably even know a little bit about it. You know you should prioritize it more. You add it to your offensively long to-do list, reassuring yourself that you will get to it, only to have it cascade to the very bottom again.

You know you should make healthy decisions. That your mental and physical health are important.

But when it comes to self-care, most of us are asleep.

Lulled into complacency by the deluded promise that tomorrow will be different. That is, until a massive personal tragedy or crisis wakes us up and scares the hell out of us.

Katie McDonald believes it doesn't have to be that way.

The Wake-Up Call

If you're ready to stop sleepwalking (and you are), this speech will hit you like a sound-barrier-shattering alarm clock with a busted snooze button.

You'll learn how to liberate yourself from destructive, self-sacrificing habits by being deLIBERATE in your self-care. This speech will challenge you to take action in your own life—immediately—and give you the tools you need to do it.

What if you stopped apologizing and started advocating for yourself?

Aren't you curious what life would be like when you are truly nourished by your habits and mindset? When you walk out of this speech, you'll emerge refreshed, alive with purpose and a contagious passion to show up for yourself the way you show up for everyone else.

attendees learn:

  • Why self-neglect is actually selfish (and self-care is your responsibility)
  • How to be a mentor and model, not a martyr
  • The relationship between self-care and leadership effectiveness
  • Concrete strategies to implement immediately
  • Permission to choose themselves without guilt

The Core Message

Why do we expect so much of ourselves in every area of our lives except self-care, where somehow mediocrity is tolerated?

Self-care is a duty. It's our responsibility to bring our most evolved selves to the table. In telling ourselves we don't have permission and we are too busy, we have become damsels in distress. But only we can rescue ourselves. We are the knights in shining armor we've been waiting for. Suit up.

Self-care is an act of defiance in a society conditioning us to be martyrs and saints. Saying yes to ourselves and our legitimate needs must mean saying no to someone else. And we all know good girls don't say no. If they do, they're guilty. Naughty even.

We honorably over-function for everyone else and in doing so, we underperform for ourselves. Our compulsion to serve is as primal as a bull facing a red flag. And God it feels good. Until it doesn't. The superhero cape chokes us, strangling our needs, depriving us of oxygen.

We cannot resist someone in need unless that someone is us.

So we deny our right to self-care and in doing so, make us the ones in need of rescue.

Perfect for:
  • Women's leadership conferences and summits
  • Employee Resource Groups (ERGs) focused on women
  • High-potential women's development programs
  • Organizations committed to women's advancement
  • Annual women's retreats and professional development days
Industries that love this keynote:
  • Healthcare (where caring for others is the culture)
  • Education (where teachers/administrators give constantly)
  • Professional services (where billable hours rule)
  • Non-profit sector (where mission drives sacrifice)
  • Any organization with women in leadership

Katie-isms featured in this keynote

"Self-care isn't selfish. It's your duty."
"How dare you deprive us of your best self?"
"Self-neglect is selfish."
"We are the knights in shining armor we've been waiting for."
"Be a mentor and model, not a martyr."
"Rest is rebellious."
"We cannot be good girls and good to ourselves. Choose you this time."

What Makes This Different from Other
"Women's Empowerment" Talks

Katie doesn't do empowerment theater. She does truth-telling. This isn't a feel-good pep talk that everyone forgets by Monday. It's a paradigm shift that challenges deeply held beliefs about women's roles, responsibilities, and right to their own attention.

Katie speaks from her own experience of self-sacrifice nearly killing her. She knows what it's like to believe everyone else's needs matter more. To be drowning in "too muchness" while feeling like you're not enough.

This keynote gives women permission to rescue themselves. And the tools to actually do it.

What People Are Saying

Working with Katie was incredibly easy…you can tell that she’s truly trying to make an impact on the lives of those that she speaks to.
Michelle Beutner, Schneider Energy
We left our day together feeling challenged and motivated, with a plan of straightforward steps toward our individual goals, and the sense that we have the power to create personal change.
Attendee, Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute Women’s Retreat
Holy cow, the keynote speaker was incredible!
IIDA Building Leaders Breakfast attendee
Katie McDonald rocked it! Her disruptive approach to self-care, while still compassionate, is transformative. She has a way of saying exactly what you need to hear, even when you are one of hundreds or thousands listening at the same time.
LuAnn Nigara, LuAnn Live
Katie is an energetic presenter who is not afraid to tell you like it is.
Kassandra McGlone, Insperity
Business Performance Advisor
I thought it would be very "fluff" but it was so much better than I could've imagined. Katie's presentation was truly enlightening. She has a very clever and thoughtful way of calling out how we respect or don't respect ourselves.
Liz Connell, SEG
Communications Manager
Katie’s workshop was one of the most life-changing things I have ever experienced. Although she was speaking to a group, I truly felt as though she was speaking directly to me. Flexible, dedicated, inspiring, EASY TO WORK WITH are a few words that come to mind when I mention Katie to anyone interested in a keynote speaker!
Deb Honor, Women’s Fund
As a country addicted to being busy, it's still so easy to forget to take the time to implement self-care strategies. Katie's workshop was just what I needed in order to give myself permission to put myself first!
Liz Malone, Brown University Jonathan M Nelson Center for Entrepreneurship
Program Manager
An attendee shared with me that not only were these strategies helpful to her in her own daily life, but she could not wait to share them with her entire family and coworkers.
Jennifer Purcell, NYCOM
Director of Events and Publications
Katie's insights are not just stories; they're a call to action for anyone feeling stuck or yearning for more in their professional life.
Kamrin Huban, 50 Not Dead Podcast

Logistics

Duration
30, 45, or 60 minutes (customizable)
Format
Keynote, workshop, or fireside chat
Delivery
In-person or virtual
Language
Female-focused (can be adapted)